I’m a by product of what I know.

I was talking with a new friend last night and we were discussing our failed relationships and the lessons we’ve learned along the way. It made me realize that just like anything else in life, the way I operate under a certain arena or subject matter is simply a byproduct of what I know. If I only know grade school level math, then the only math you’ll get out of me is one plus one equals two. But if I studied and gave math my undivided focused attention (like Aleona), you’ll get a PHD level math from me.

The same exact thing applies with Love. If the only love I’ve ever experienced is the high-school petty love, then that’s the level of love you’ll get out of me (and that’s the level of love I’ll expect out of you). And the moment my high-school “gooowie” feeling of “being in love” falls off / diminishes (as they all do when the natural high is over), I’ll start acting up. Thinking that there is something wrong. Demanding for things to change as I no longer feel “in love”.
But the reality is, what I feel is simply a by product of what I know.
So the more I study about Love, the more I abound by Love, and the more I try to live a life of Love, my own personal Standards of Love rises. Lighting and lifting me up from within, giving me (and everyone else around me) an opportunity to grow further in my new deeper depths of Love.
I think 99.9% of our problems today, especially with our spouses or other halves and our quest for relationships boils down to our own personal Standards of Love.
We are simply limited by what we know.
So the key isn’t so much in looking or expecting that “goowie” in love feeling all the time but in learning more and more about Love – About the True Depths of Real Love – to the point that you become a subject matter expert on it amongst your circle of friends.
I know I’m making it sound like a subject in school but my point is our Undivided Focused Attention should be on us (not on our spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend) but on us – the more we exert effort in learning about Love, the more the right type of PHD Level of Love finds us.
God bless you.
(Please forgive me if there are any grammatical errors above, I know that can bother some. My point in “Writing Out Loud” isn’t to be perfect grammatically but to share fully the on going lessons I learn in this short wonderful life of ours, thank you.)